#63 – Why You Need a Personal Performance Coach to Reach Your Full Potential
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Ian Hawkins highlights the profound impact a personal performance coach can have on your life. He discusses the importance of seeking support, externalizing thoughts, and breaking free from limiting beliefs to achieve personal and professional growth.
– Understand how coaching can fast-track your progress and unlock your potential.
– Explore the value of independent guidance for clarity and validation.
– Learn how to navigate challenges, shift subconscious patterns, and embrace continual improvement.
About the Host:
Ian Hawkins, host of "Sport Is Life," is dedicated to showing how sports can transform lives. With extensive experience as an athlete, a coach, PE teacher, community volunteer, and manager at Fox Sports, Ian brings a wealth of knowledge to the podcast. His journey began in his backyard, mentored by his older brother, and has since evolved into coaching elite athletes and business leaders. Ian's commitment to sports and personal development is evident in his roles as a performance coach and active community member. Through "Sport Is Life," Ian shares inspiring stories and valuable lessons to help listeners apply sports principles to all areas of life.
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someone who's independent, who's not
Speaker:emotionally attached to the situation,
Speaker:who's not going to try and fix it. Who's
Speaker:not going to get triggered by it, which
Speaker:usually happens when we're talking to our
Speaker:partners or our friends or family.
Speaker:Who's just going to be calmly able to
Speaker:give a different take on that to
Speaker:validate when you're having weird
Speaker:thoughts?
Speaker:Just to remind you, no, that's actually
Speaker:fine. You're not going crazy to support
Speaker:you when you're going through a tough
Speaker:time. I don't know how I could
Speaker:get through without the coach I've had
Speaker:the last 5-6 years.
Speaker:Because there are times where
Speaker:I'm like, I just, I'm not coping with
Speaker:this. I just need to externalise what's
Speaker:goingon. I need someone to tell me you're
Speaker:on the right track, you're going to get
Speaker:there. Someone to Rev me up and go
Speaker:keep going. You're nearly there. You'llget
Speaker:I'm Ian Hawkins and this is Sporty's
Speaker:life. The purpose of sport, as I
Speaker:see it, is to see your vision become a
Speaker:reality, find your voice, create
Speaker:strong connections and learn to trust
Speaker:your body.
Speaker:On last week's interview episode with
Speaker:Darren Holder, he was talking about in
Speaker:Australia how we call our
Speaker:mental performance coaches, sports
Speaker:psychologists and he said to our
Speaker:detriment, most other countries they call
Speaker:them performance, mental performance
Speaker:consultants or words to that effect. And
Speaker:he said there's a certain stigma attached
Speaker:to the word psych or
Speaker:psychologist. Particularly
Speaker:in. Australian
Speaker:culture, it's sort of seen as where you
Speaker:would go when something's gone wrong. And
Speaker:he said. But when you want to be in high
Speaker:performance, it's not about
Speaker:visiting your mental strength person when
Speaker:when things are going wrong. But it's
Speaker:like, here's the level I'm at, how can I
Speaker:continue to get better? And if you look
Speaker:from a sports perspective, that's a no
Speaker:brainer. I'm sure if you've played well,
Speaker:I bet you have played sport, but in any
Speaker:of the sport you've played, you've
Speaker:always. Look to continue to improve
Speaker:its human nature, especially if you've
Speaker:got a competitive edge, you've got that
Speaker:athletic spirit where you you want to
Speaker:win, or at the very least you want to
Speaker:give yourself the best chance of a good
Speaker:performance and ultimately to have
Speaker:success.
Speaker:So if that's true in sport, why
Speaker:would you not then apply that same
Speaker:logic to other areas of your life?
Speaker:Why is there also a culture in Australia
Speaker:of that's good enough?
Speaker:Most important part of
Speaker:us a life journey. Why
Speaker:would we not apply that same logic? Why
Speaker:would we not continue to want to get
Speaker:better? Why do you think?
Speaker:Why do you think you can do it on your
Speaker:own?The
Speaker:reality is you can do it on your own.
Speaker:It's going to take you much longer and
Speaker:there are going to be challenges where
Speaker:you have to navigate that without
Speaker:support, without validation.
Speaker:So in answer to the question, why get a
Speaker:personal performance coach if you're in a
Speaker:hurry and you're sick of going through
Speaker:the same patterns? And then he's the
Speaker:first reason getting a coach is going to
Speaker:fast track your results. Remember getting
Speaker:my first coach about
Speaker:2012, I think it was,
Speaker:yeah, late November 2012 when I first got
Speaker:introduced, my first coach. And.
Speaker:Quickly immersing myself in personal
Speaker:development and, and trying to get
Speaker:better. And, and then suddenly I was just
Speaker:like, OK, what else can I learn? And I
Speaker:just like a sponge trying to eat up this
Speaker:new material that I'd never experienced
Speaker:before. I'd never been taught these
Speaker:things before. And I remember at one
Speaker:point in 2013, I'm at
Speaker:another course. I'm, I'm actually going
Speaker:to become a consultant to, to teach
Speaker:people about flow, which is something
Speaker:that I still use in my Business Today.
Speaker:And just thinking, wow, actually it was a
Speaker:question. It was a question put to the
Speaker:group and we had to answer it and
Speaker:introduce ourselves and and that's what I
Speaker:answered. It's like I feel like my
Speaker:my personal growth and my life
Speaker:is accelerating and at times it feels
Speaker:like it's out of control because I'm
Speaker:improving so much. I'm learning so much
Speaker:and I just have this thirst to get
Speaker:better. And it has its fast
Speaker:track. So many different things in my
Speaker:life. I actually look back now and I
Speaker:contemplate where my life would have gone
Speaker:if I'd continued down the same path that
Speaker:I was on. Funnily enough, in my.
Speaker:My OneDrive pops up with a daily memory
Speaker:of photographs and yesterday
Speaker:was an event where I was with a
Speaker:hold of my mates and it
Speaker:was like, it was like everyone was
Speaker:together. So all my friends from way back
Speaker:then that there's a few splintered
Speaker:factions, shall we say in amongst those
Speaker:groups now. And, and a lot of the people
Speaker:in the room are like, oh that's
Speaker:interesting because everyone's there and
Speaker:they all seem happy. Like really happy
Speaker:and yet I had no recollection of of what
Speaker:it was. I, I couldn't remember what
Speaker:event it was. I eventually worked out
Speaker:what I think it was, but again, not 100%
Speaker:certainbecause I, I couldn't remember. I
Speaker:couldn't even remember the clothes I was
Speaker:wearing. Shocking outfit. By the way.
Speaker:There's only 2007 as it turned out. But
Speaker:then as I remembered, late
Speaker:2007. Two young
Speaker:children under 3.
Speaker:It was. Two
Speaker:years after my dad had passed, I was
Speaker:hitting that point in my life where I was
Speaker:questioning. It was like that that
Speaker:midlife crisis come a bit early,
Speaker:which I think my dad's passing would have
Speaker:accelerated that Children, certainly as
Speaker:you're facing your existence
Speaker:and.
Speaker:Yeah, I I don't have great memories at
Speaker:that time and the
Speaker:tiredness would have had a huge part. But
Speaker:I think also is because I've just gone
Speaker:through the motions and I just think
Speaker:about what what would have been the fate
Speaker:of my children and my marriage and
Speaker:like my career if I hadn't gone down the
Speaker:path I'd gone now I could, despite the
Speaker:different challenges that it's thrown up,
Speaker:I could never go back to how it was
Speaker:never. And I'm so
Speaker:grateful and appreciative of the journey
Speaker:of being on since then.
Speaker:I'm gonna pass it on to all of you
Speaker:and the hundreds and hundreds of people
Speaker:that I've coached over the last 10 years.
Speaker:The people that I've come in contact
Speaker:with, the people that have listened
Speaker:to to one of my podcasts or read
Speaker:something that I've put out there.
Speaker:I get so much out of that, and that's
Speaker:from having a coach and having a coach
Speaker:since then until now.
Speaker:And why? Another reason why is
Speaker:that I love when I need to external
Speaker:ise something. I don't haveto
Speaker:wonder, I don't have to keep playing it
Speaker:in my head, I don't have to have all
Speaker:these different thoughts. I get to
Speaker:externalise it, have someone repeat it
Speaker:back to me, ask good questions and
Speaker:suddenly it all makes sense. And someone
Speaker:who's independent, who's not emotionally
Speaker:attached to the situation, who's not
Speaker:going to try and fix it. Who's not going
Speaker:to get triggered by it, which usually
Speaker:happens when we're talking to our
Speaker:partners or our friends or family.
Speaker:Who's just going to be calmly able to
Speaker:give a different take on that to
Speaker:validate when you're having weird
Speaker:thoughts?
Speaker:Just to remind you, no, that's actually
Speaker:fine. You're not going crazy to support
Speaker:you when you're going through a tough
Speaker:time. I don't know how I could
Speaker:get through without the coach I've had
Speaker:the last 5-6 years.
Speaker:Because there are times where
Speaker:I'm like, I just, I'm not coping with
Speaker:this. I just need to externalise what's
Speaker:goingon. I need someone to tell me you're
Speaker:on the right track, you're going to get
Speaker:there. Someone to Rev me up and go
Speaker:keep going. You're nearly there. You'll
Speaker:get there with this next, this next
Speaker:surge. So
Speaker:it's support, it's validation.
Speaker:It's having someone to help
Speaker:change your subconscious beliefs to
Speaker:literally let go of of old
Speaker:beliefs. And depending on where you're up
Speaker:to, you can have a deeper dive in some of
Speaker:those patterns. Change them,
Speaker:change them for the better. Every
Speaker:time you have a moment in your
Speaker:life where you react in a way you didn't
Speaker:want to, where you have thoughts that you
Speaker:just don't want to keep replying, where
Speaker:you have things going on with your body.
Speaker:That you're sick of happening where you
Speaker:continue to have the same setbacks. A
Speaker:coach will help change that. A coach will
Speaker:help you steer it in another direction,
Speaker:to navigate around whatever the challenge
Speaker:is and do it way quicker than you would
Speaker:be able to do on your own. Now you can
Speaker:push through certain challenges
Speaker:will your way past certain things, but it
Speaker:always comes at a cost because
Speaker:if you push past what your body is
Speaker:capable of.
Speaker:Your body will remind you that there's
Speaker:only so far you can go with certain
Speaker:things.
Speaker:Mentally, if you just keep pushing on it,
Speaker:you eventually mentally your brain will
Speaker:start to tell you that it needs a rest
Speaker:too. Doesn't switch off at night,
Speaker:but does switch off when you give it the
Speaker:right environment and the right
Speaker:situations.
Speaker:Because you'll get brain fog, you'll have
Speaker:trouble concentrating, short term memory
Speaker:will go all of those different things.
Speaker:And then emotions. Now it's the end of
Speaker:the year. This is when emotions can get a
Speaker:bit frayed. And I've got to be honest,
Speaker:there are times at the moment where I am
Speaker:getting triggered by things. I'm finding
Speaker:it more challenging than usual because it
Speaker:has been a long year and as I've
Speaker:changed direction in the business,
Speaker:there's been more challenges than there's
Speaker:been the previous two years. But there's
Speaker:also been more opportunities and wouldn't
Speaker:change it for the world. The point is, is
Speaker:that when that happens, like
Speaker:today, I literally send a message to
Speaker:my coach in capital letters help
Speaker:because I was just struggling to shift
Speaker:this persistent emotion that had been
Speaker:hanging around for 24 hours.
Speaker:Invaluable. Can
Speaker:you imagine what it would be like? Lord,
Speaker:I'd have to sit there every
Speaker:day thinking, oh man, no one gets me, No
Speaker:one understands. How am I going to get
Speaker:through this and all the other messages
Speaker:that go through your head that you play
Speaker:out that bullshit self talk
Speaker:on repeat. Trying to
Speaker:lift yourself up and then cutting
Speaker:yourself down, all of those things in
Speaker:between.
Speaker:And of course, I'm going to recommend
Speaker:getting a coach because I am a coach
Speaker:and I say to people all the time, if I
Speaker:have a conversation with them and
Speaker:they're not ready to work with me, I
Speaker:highly encourage them to seek out help
Speaker:somewhere else. Now, if I can
Speaker:help you, I will be absolutely
Speaker:certain with that and I'll tell you how I
Speaker:can help you. But if I can't,
Speaker:I'll be honest about that too. But I will
Speaker:point you in the right direction if I
Speaker:think that's what you need.
Speaker:Because for me, it's about making sure
Speaker:that we normalise this process,
Speaker:that we normalise helping eachother,
Speaker:that we normalise self. improvement
Speaker:Because I know the difference it can
Speaker:make. I remember those first two years of
Speaker:personal development, I would have
Speaker:annoyed the shit out of people because I
Speaker:couldn't wait to tell people do you
Speaker:should do this, you should do that.
Speaker:Because I was just so excited myself
Speaker:about the changes that I've made. Now, I
Speaker:now now know that's not the way to do it
Speaker:and people are very resistant, but they
Speaker:have to change where when they're ready.
Speaker:And if you're not ready to start
Speaker:that conversation, that's absolutely
Speaker:fine. But just know when you are ready,
Speaker:I'd love to have a conversation with you
Speaker:to see if and how I can help. And if I
Speaker:can't, like I said, I'll point in the
Speaker:right direction to whatever you're up to.
Speaker:And if I can, then we can talk about what
Speaker:that looks like as well. Because I'm that
Speaker:passionate about this that
Speaker:I do this as a business. But I
Speaker:also do it because I love it and I've had
Speaker:this conversation with my children when
Speaker:retirement came up and I said I won't
Speaker:retire even if I don't need the money, I
Speaker:will continue to do this because I love
Speaker:it. There's a selfish element to it. I
Speaker:get so much out of this. So much,
Speaker:so much fulfilment, the joy of
Speaker:giving. One of the important
Speaker:parts of human need is growth and
Speaker:contribution, and it allows me to
Speaker:continue to grow and it allows me to feel
Speaker:like I'm giving back to the world, which
Speaker:is not just a
Speaker:need, it's something that
Speaker:just feels, fills our
Speaker:spirit, fills our soul and gives us
Speaker:something that that few other experiences
Speaker:in life can. So
Speaker:I'll get off my soapbox. Now that's
Speaker:my. Rant
Speaker:on why you'd get a personal performance
Speaker:coach, the benefits, and like
Speaker:I said, if you're looking for someone
Speaker:who's had the results that's helped
Speaker:hundreds of people, someone that you can
Speaker:trust and hit me up and I'd love to have
Speaker:a conversation with you. Have an awesome
Speaker:day.
Speaker:You've taken the time to listen to this
Speaker:whole episode. Now it's time to take
Speaker:action. Commit to one thing you've
Speaker:learned today and make it happen. And to
Speaker:avoid any obstructions, join the Sporty's
Speaker:Life movement by clicking on the link in
Speaker:the show notes.
