# 27 - Unlocking Confidence: Where to Find It and How to Build It
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Episode Summary:
Ian explains the concept of confidence, dating it back to the Latin term "confidere," which means "to trust together." He emphasises that confidence is developed through the capacity to confide and share ideas in a safe setting.
- Learn the importance of reducing overthinking to find answers and build self-belief, reducing negative self-doubt.
- Discover the value of having coaches, mentors, psychologists, or counselors to provide a safe, trustworthy space for confiding and gaining new perspectives.
- How the power of words and language, suggesting that our self-spelled stories can either keep us stuck or help us create new, positive narratives.
About the Host:
Ian Hawkins, host of "Sport Is Life," is dedicated to showing how sports can transform lives. With extensive experience as an athlete, a coach, PE teacher, community volunteer, and manager at Fox Sports, Ian brings a wealth of knowledge to the podcast. His journey began in his backyard, mentored by his older brother, and has since evolved into coaching elite athletes and business leaders. Ian's commitment to sports and personal development is evident in his roles as a performance coach and active community member. Through "Sport Is Life," Ian shares inspiring stories and valuable lessons to help listeners apply sports principles to all areas of life.
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Transcript
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To instantly reduce the overthinking. It's going to allow you to find the answers to some of those questions. You stop being stuck. You're
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going to start being able to
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have that self belief to go and do the things you want to do, and you're going to reduce that negative voice that plays out the self doubt that seems to build and build because of these old stories that we've been spelling in our head. And you can create an all new magic for not just your future,
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but just how you are in the everyday moment.
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I'm Ian Hawkins,
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and this is sport. Is life.
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The purpose of sport, as I see it, is to see your vision become a reality, find your voice, create strong connections and learn to trust your body. Bigger.
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Just back from a run, and as is often the case when I run, I have a time to process and work things out of my head, and I get ideas, and I was reminded of something that I learned just recently about the word confidence. Now, a lot of the people I coach, one of the key things they want is more confidence. Is more self belief, if not the main thing they want. And I found it interesting, and I'll read this to you. Confidence comes from Latin specifically the noun confidentia, from the verb confidia to confide, right to confide, interesting. The Latin prefix con, a variant of com, usually means with, together, in combination.
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The verb for dear probably
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pronouncing that wrong means to trust. So it's trusting together, and if you think about it, from the word confide, to share, to open up in a trusting space. So confidence is from that definition, is the ability to confide, to open up to trust, to be able to talk about what's going on, and that's one of the key elements of finding confidence, is to have that ability to be able to share, to be able to find a trusted place that you actually feel like you can confide you can talk about the things you need to talk about, because so much of this stuff, we get stuck in our thinking. We get stuck in our in our whole system. It impacts us in so different ways when we bottle it up and and we hold on to things. And you may have heard in some of the episodes that I've done with interviews where people have shared things that they maybe haven't shared before, it certainly happens in the coaching environment, because it's that trust is built and they have that a sense of a safe place to be able to confide, and the relief that that gives them, and the momentum that that gives them, and the self belief that that they're able to increase because they've opened up, because they've confided, the confidence that has come from that. Now I find the meaning and origins of words fascinating from the things that perhaps come from words that maybe aren't what we think, and the actual origins maybe have a deeper meaning, some good, some maybe not so good, but when it comes to things that we really are important to us in our everyday life, then the meaning of the word is so important. I love what I also heard around the concept of spelling, like we are spelling, where, with our words, with our language, with the different letters words, combinations we use. We're casting spells with our words, and we're definitely doing that in our head. So our ability to create magic, if you will, perhaps not the magic that you're traditionally taught about, tricks and ways of creating illusion, but in the sense of casting spells and the stories that we tell ourselves, and there's something about that ability to confide, to open up the trusting space that allows us to create a real truth about the stories in our head, and it allows to get us a different perspective, so that we're not always stuck in that space of doubting our. Selves and confused and overthinking, because we've got so many different thoughts going in our head, and then we have this amazing mind that's got a great imagination, and that continues to come up with different ideas of what might be going on. And 99.9% of that's just not true. We just we create these different stories, and these stories keep us stuck. So the ability to open up, to confide, to to be able to find that trusted space, is going to allow you to find so much more sense of things. It's going to instantly reduce the overthinking. It's going to allow you to find the answers to some of those questions. You know, stop being stuck. You're going to start being able to have that self belief to go and do the things you want to do, and you're going to reduce that negative voice that plays out the self doubt that seems to build and build because of these old stories that we've been spelling in our head, and you can create an all new magic for not just your future, but just how you are in the everyday moment. So something to think about. And as a coach, of course, I am a fan of having a coach. It's why I have coaches in my life as well in different areas, whether it's a coach, whether it's finding a mentor, whether it's finding a psychologist, a counselor, but having a safe place where you feel that trust, that you can open up, that you are getting a good response from that person in a way that's allowing you to be empowered, to to to find that self belief, to go and get out of that repeating loop that sometimes you feel yourself stuck in at times where day after day seems the same, that allows you to move forward and create an expansion. Instead of the loop repeating, it actually spirals outwards to something all new. So have a think about that, about how much you want, how much you need confidence, and how much you're prepared to confide to be able to get it. Because that really is the answer to building that confidence, to building that self belief to make it happen. So that's my challenge for you today, is to find a place where you can open up where you know that you'll get a trustworthy response, so that you can start moving forward towards the better things in life. You've taken the time to listen to this whole episode. Now it's time to take action. Commit to one thing you've learned today and make it happen, and to avoid any obstructions, join the sport is life movement by clicking on the link in the show notes you.
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